Love, Laughter, and Life Lessons: A Peek into Our Relationship

Hey there, lovely readers! It’s Jessica here, and I’m excited to take you on a little journey through the ups and downs of relationships, marriage, and everything in between. We were inspired by an article that we found on Hitched.com. Called 40 Key Questions to Ask Your Partner Before Marriage by: Maisie Peppitt. Grab your favorite drink, get comfy, and let’s dive into the delightful chaos that is love!

The Kev and Jess Show: A Love Story

First off, let me introduce you to my partner in crime, my husband, Kevin. Together, we host the Kev and Jess Show, where we chat about everything from our daily lives to the intricacies of relationships. It’s a wild ride, and I wouldn’t have it any other way!

Now, you might be wondering, what makes our relationship tick? Well, it’s a mix of love, laughter, and a sprinkle of chaos. We’ve been through a lot together, and I think it’s safe to say that we’ve learned a thing or two about what it takes to make a relationship work.

The Cliché Advice: What’s the Deal?

You know how everyone has advice about marriage? “Never go to bed angry,” “Communicate openly,” and my personal favorite, “Don’t dunk her toothbrush in the toilet.” Seriously, who comes up with this stuff? While some of it is genuinely helpful, I think it’s important to remember that every relationship is unique.

For us, it’s not just about the big milestones like getting married or having kids; it’s about the little moments that make life special. Whether it’s binge-watching our favorite shows or having deep conversations about life, those are the moments that truly matter.

Getting to Know Each Other: The Fun Way

So, we decided to spice things up a bit and explore some fun questions to ask each other. We found a list of 40 questions from a website called Hitched (not to be confused with the Will Smith movie, mind you!). These questions are designed to help couples connect on a deeper level, and let me tell you, they did not disappoint!

General Questions

We kicked things off with some general questions. One of the first ones was, “Why do you want to get married?” Now, I’ll be honest, when we got married, it was a mix of love and a green light from Jesus to be intimate. But as we’ve grown, our reasons have evolved. It’s about building a life together, supporting each other, and creating a family.

Another great question was, “How do you handle disagreements?” Oh boy, this one is a doozy! Kevin and I have very different styles when it comes to conflict. I’m more of a “let’s talk it out” kind of person, while he tends to match my energy when things get heated. It’s a dance, really, and we’ve learned to navigate it together.

Financial Fun

Next up, we tackled the financial questions. Let me tell you, finances can be a tricky subject in any relationship. We’ve been married for a while now, and we’ve had our fair share of financial ups and downs. But what’s important is that we’ve always been on the same page.

One of the questions was, “What are your finances really like?” Well, when we got married, we didn’t have much—just a 93 Tercel and a couple of bedsheets! But we’ve built a life together, and we’ve learned to budget and pivot when things get tough.

We also discussed how we split our finances. Some couples prefer to keep things separate, while others merge everything together. For us, it’s been a mix of both, and it works! The key is communication and being honest about our financial goals.

The Intimacy Factor

Now, let’s talk about intimacy. This is a topic that can be a bit taboo, but it’s so important in any relationship. One of the questions we explored was, “How do you feel about your sex life?” This opened up a great dialogue about our differing sex drives and how we can support each other in that area.

As we’ve grown together, we’ve learned that intimacy isn’t just about sex; it’s about vulnerability and connection. It’s about being able to share our fears, dreams, and everything in between. And let me tell you, having those conversations has brought us closer than ever.

Lifestyle Choices: The Big Questions

We also delved into lifestyle questions, which are crucial for any couple. “Do you want children?” is a big one. For us, the answer has evolved over time. When we first got married, we were young and didn’t have a clue what we wanted. But as we’ve grown, we’ve had those tough conversations about family and what that looks like for us.

Another great question was, “How will you split the chores?” This is a classic! Kevin and I have our own systems in place, and it’s all about teamwork. We’ve learned to communicate our needs and expectations, which has made our home life much smoother.

The Importance of Vulnerability

One of the most important lessons we’ve learned is the value of vulnerability. It’s not always easy, especially for guys, but it’s essential for a healthy relationship. We’ve both had our fair share of struggles, and being able to lean on each other during tough times has made all the difference.

We’ve had our moments of feeling unsafe or drifting apart, but we’ve always come back to each other. It’s about creating a safe space where we can be ourselves and share our feelings without judgment.

The Journey of Change

As we’ve navigated our relationship, we’ve both changed in many ways. Our values have shifted, and we’ve had to adapt to new circumstances. Whether it’s dealing with family dynamics or career changes, we’ve learned to be flexible and supportive of each other.

One of the most significant changes for me has been my perspective on religion. Growing up in a strict environment, I had a very different view of the world. But as I’ve grown, I’ve become more open-minded and accepting of different beliefs. It’s been a journey, and I’m grateful to have Kevin by my side as we navigate it together.

Celebrating the Little Things

At the end of the day, it’s the little things that matter most. Whether it’s a spontaneous date night, a cozy movie marathon, or just laughing together over silly inside jokes, those moments are what make our relationship special.

We’ve learned to celebrate each other’s successes, no matter how small, and to support each other through the tough times. It’s all about building a life together and creating memories that will last a lifetime.

Final Thoughts

So there you have it, folks! A glimpse into our relationship and the lessons we’ve learned along the way. Love is a journey, and it’s not always easy, but it’s worth it. Whether you’re married, engaged, or just starting out, remember to communicate openly, embrace vulnerability, and celebrate the little things.

Thanks for joining me on this adventure! I hope you found some inspiration and maybe even a few laughs along the way. Until next time, keep spreading the love!